Finding Your Boy
Now that you have decided upon what type of boy you are going to look for. Finding your boy is the next step. Where do you find boys that meet your criteria? There are many places where boys advertise and hang out, and replying to these adverts is a good first step. Back in the day, adverts would appear in sex magazines, and sometimes newspapers.
Online Transvestite Websites and Communities
In today’s society things have progressed to the internet. There are hundreds if not thousands of websites and communities offering introduction and dating services for trans-girls and their admirers. These are a great way to make initial contact with potential boys. Joining websites and online communities that cater for what you are looking for would always be the best place to start. For example, a website such as tvchix.com cater for all types of trans people. From panty wearers, cross-dressers, transvestites and transexuals to supporters and admirers of such.
The list of Trans-girl dating sites is limitless, and we will not be discussing any specific websites in detail. A few things that you should be expecting from a website are.
- Affordable for all (free if possible)
- The ability to create a personal profile
- The ability to add your photograph
- Free searching and messaging potential candidates, and the ability for them to respond. (many sites implement a paywall to initiate the first contact)
- Chat room or private messaging
Trans-Friendly Events
As the trans movement gathers pace and becomes more and more acceptable, more and more trans-friendly events are regularly being held.
Internet searches can help you find any trans-friendly events in your local area, or for that matter, further afield. But make sure the distance from the event and ultimately your boy is viable for regular meetings. You should consider distance when searching for your boy, unless you’re looking for a trans-girl willing to relocate closer to you.
Online websites often have a list of up-coming events. Make sure you subscribe to them, if events are something you are going to pursue.
Example : tvchix.com/events.php
We will not be discussing meeting at events as there are so many variables to consider. Each event can and will be different. If you choose to attend Trans-Friendly events good luck! Always be polite and respectful. Just because you have Master or dominant tendencies does not mean you have authority to abuse other peoples human rights or be disrespectful.
Prepare Details About Yourself
Selling, including selling yourself, is much easier when you know what it is you are selling. Therefore, spend some time writing a few paragraphs about yourself, your current relationship status, your work, your hobbies. What you are looking for in a boy and what your ultimate goals might be for the boy. What do you have to offer a boy? Remember the boy has to want you before anything further can happen, so make sure you sell yourself well. Depending upon the boy you are chatting to, there maybe different selling points to alert his attention to. Some boys want you to control them, while others want you purchase clothes for them to dress in for you.
Make sure you get some good quality photographs of yourself, clean, smart and presentable. Do not take selfies of you slouched on a sofa where 30 years of debris is visible in the background.
Above all, customise the sales pitch of yourself for each boy. Tailoring what you say, to appeal to that specific boy.
First Contact With Your Boy
Compose a very good letter, at least several paragraphs long, and maybe with a few photographs. Then send this to the boy(s) you like. It takes a while to do, but you only have to do it once and is well worth doing. Maybe a little customisation each time. But it’s far better than the typical:
“Hey you sound good! Get in contact if you want to meet.“
You will need to build trust with the shy, awkward boy who is the ideal type for full feminisation. There is a big problem here, most of the boys you contact will not readily meet you. Some are just living out a fantasy in their bedroom, and have no intention of ever going through with it, whereas others might. Separating these two, and preparing for the first meeting is covered elsewhere in The TV Trainer Guide.
Chat rooms or private messaging apps are a great way to keep in touch after your initial mutual contact. Such apps include WhatsApp and KIK etc. These apps facitlitate communication, and often you will get quicker responses compared to email.
If your boy does not respond, continue to show your interest, by contacting him again. Don’t get annoyed with him for not responding. He could possibly be nervous or panicky about his secret desires and the new emotions you are encouraging out of him. Be supportive and slowly encourage him to talk to you about his fears. You want your boy to be able to come to you for support and understanding about these new desires. If you are easily annoyed and your boy picks up on this, that could be the end. It’s much better to build trust slowly over time, where you help tame his fears and nervousness.
Profiles and Usernames
If you are creating accounts on websites or private messaging apps, and you are not using your real name, choose a good username.
For example, ‘Master_4_TV‘, ‘Girl_maker‘, ‘TV_helper‘, ‘Lord_William‘ are good names, whereas ‘suck_my_cock‘, ‘Master-bator‘ or ‘Cum-wizard‘ etc are poor names for attracting a shy boy.
If you have the option for a profile, do not leave it blank. This is very important. Spend plenty of time making your profile as attractive as possible. Remember you are selling yourself, and it will be many people’s first impression of you. Be relatively serious. Obviously don’t give your real full name (unless you want to), but give your location. There is no point chatting up a boy across the Atlantic if you want real life experiences. Fill out your ‘hobbies & interests’ in a sensible way and have at least 1 quality photograph on your profile.